DO YOUR STUFF, INSPIRE OTHERS. BUT THAT´S IT!

A very wise person said to me the other day: 

“DO YOUR STUFF.
INSPIRE OTHERS.
BUT THAT´S IT!”
 

And that´s really it. Right?
What I figured out over the last couple of months is that I am really happy when I am properly looking after my own wellbeing, when I live after my own values and when I focus on myself.
Everything else turns out automatically.
I am grateful for all the achievements I was able to welcome in my life over the last decades. Heading forward, heading home, improve and learn – those are the most important values for me. Growing, understanding, get inspired and adapt it to my own values, something I am constantly doing. More or less.
The hardest thing to do is to get rid of bad habits and of what isn´t good for my wellbeing.
Though I am a really stubborn person and usually I go for what I want ... getting rid of some bad habits is not that easy as I would wish for. 

For example:
When I am not feeling good, I theoretical know it would be the most helpful thing to really take good care of myself, to be patient with myself and to keep on doing the “good things”.
But what do I do? I still fall into that dark hole. I tend to give up and to feel like a looser. Instead of taking extra good care of myself in those crisis I start to eat unhealthy again and I feel bad about that too. Afterward it takes some more energy to get back to my new pure and natural routine.

And there is another thing on my mind:
The most important thing, which I demand for myself, I am not able to give to others!
I demand my own free will, my free spirit and my ability to live my life exactly how I want it to be, right?
So why do I still get that angry about the behaviour of others? Why do I judge them? Why do I think I know what is right or wrong? 

“DO YOUR STUFF.
INSPIRE OTHERS.
BUT THAT´S IT!”
 

As a Highly Sensitive Person I have enough to do with myself. Believe me.
And I am not complaining anymore. Thank God and all the Universe I came to love my sensibility. For no money in the world I would want it differently anymore. Okay, easy to say, now that the hardest years are over, but I already came a long way and that´s why it is time to enjoy all the effort.
I guess the most important thing as a HSP is to know exactly who I am. I need to know how I am ticking, what makes me happy, what is unhealthy for me. The more I know myself, the more I can take care of myself.
And about that I did a really amazing job over the years! 

When I am well, when I am in a positive mood I can replace mountains.
I do remember times when I thought of myself as very selfish. And yes, I needed to be selfish to survive. Today I know how much I protected myself best like that. But what is also true: in this selfishness I also became a better person and therefore I am able to contribute my part. 

For example:
I love to go to restaurants and cafés. Not because I am not able to cook for myself ... but to be among people without being with people. I am comfortable in being a loner, though I am also an extroverted person. This is why I need the contact with people. On my own terms.
So the last measurements against Covid 19 of closing the restaurants, open them only for take away and delivery, hit me hard.
First I lost my social platforms.
Second I was not willing to litter with single used take away packaging!
So what I did in my selfish act, of keeping what I really love, was: bringing my own containers, cutlery and napkins from home, getting my take away meals – as trash and package free as possible – and enjoy lunch, dinner or a coffee with some sweet sins - at the sea, in the sun, with a book, sitting on a towel I also brought from home.
Nobody makes me litter when I don´t want to litter!
So with my selfishness I also take care of Mother Earth.
In the restaurants I often heard a big “THANK YOU”. Then I would say:
“You know what? I don´t do it for the planet in the first place. I don´t do it for you to safe packages and therefore money. I just do it because it makes ME feel good.” 

And that is what I meant when I said: while being selfish I am also able to contribute my part. 

I guess the big secret of success in every meaning of the word is to be selfish enough to follow our own calling. There is this inner voice which would tell us where we should heading to when only we would listen to it.
I guess the world would be a much better place if more of us would be a little bit more selfish. Selfish in a way to do what is good for us and for our own wellbeing. 

It works for me.
Because what I found out is how much I am connected to Mother Earth and Nature.
It´s not only that I love plants and animals, I do feel connected with them as living creatures, as my relatives.
I am part of nature, as much as a carrot is part of it and as much as a lizard is ...
So I guess no one ever had to tell me to protect Nature. 

As HSP I know I am able to feel “more” than others.
For a short period in my life I was open for spiritual input. Like I was able to feel souls around me. I remember a time when I would regularly wake up, frozen of fear, because I felt “somebody” in my flat. I was told that the souls of dead people try to reach out for my help. They would not harm me and even would not push me if I was not ready to help them.
And I for sure was not ready for that.
So they stopped coming at night ...
Later on I would have loved to “work with that ability” but obviously I was not open for it anymore.
I do believe in more than I can see. That´s for sure.
But instead of being connected to the spirits around us I am a grounded person through and through. Though I know I have my own Guardian Angel I do not “feel” the connection with angels and angelic beings. Though I know that I lived before and will live again in order to learn my life lessons I am not able to connect with myself in another life.
Only exception is my deep connection with the Native Americans.
I know I was among them before. I know I belong to them in a certain way. And that is what fits perfectly: my connection with the Natives obviously explains my connection with Mother Earth, with Nature. Makes totally sense for me! Otherwise I totally believe in the Universe and in Wakan Tanka – the Great Mystery. 

“DO YOUR STUFF.
INSPIRE OTHERS.
BUT THAT´S IT!”
 

So you see: as a HSP I have a lot to do with myself, with my stuff.
As much as I love to inspire others I love to get inspired!
What I am still struggling with is: - Inspire others – is all I could wish for! And actively this is what I am doing. I love to do my stuff and share it with others. When somebody follows my ways it makes me very happy:
Friends who show me their own glass containers, which they brought from home because they like me doing it.
People who read my blog or my posts on “Heading Home” and who like what they are reading or sharing their own thoughts with me.
Colleagues who proudly present me their own crochet little things they made because they got inspired by my self made things.
People who tell me how much they like my self made cosy for my coffee glass jar. I´ve got a dark red cosy made out of t-shirt yarn for years and my colleagues keep telling me: “I know that is yours when you leave it in the kitchen!”
So those are the amazing “outcomes” of my own doing.
These reactions make me happy because I inspired somebody by simply doing what I am doing. 

I do not want to judge people and I do not want to tell people what to do. I really try NOT to do that actively. But this is the hard part: I am still judging. I am still getting angry by the missing empathy of others. I still don´t get it how people in 2021 are not able to think about Mother Earth or about Nature.
Also when it comes to “help” friends I am way to impulsive.
This is something a friend made me understand the other day.
When she was opening up to me I impulsively told her how I understood her situation and gave her some advices. Afterward we were talking about my behaviour because I wasn’t comfortable in sounding like a wise person who knows all the secrets of life.
She asked me: “Do you know why you are doing so?”
And I was able to answer right away: “Yes! Because I needed to learn all those things. For me it was life saving to learn all of that for myself. And it was not easy. It took a lot of time. So now that I found my solutions I so want to share them with others because I really would love to share my hard found results with others, make it easier for them. What I do forget is that my solutions are not the solutions of others. My “secrets” seem so true for me that I forget that everyone has his own “secrets”.”
And she said something really important:
“I need to find my own solutions by myself.” 

“DO YOUR STUFF.
INSPIRE OTHERS.
BUT THAT´S IT!”
 

Let everyone find their own way! – That´s a lesson I still have to learn.
Because there is nothing more satisfying than to reach the top of a mountain alone, without help!
Only then you can stand there and shout proudly into the world:
“I DID IT! I DID IT ALL BY MYSELF!”

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